Gentleman, Start Your Engines

Or in this case, your libido. That’s right. You talked, and I listened. After the article Tips for Better Foreplay for Him was released, I received quite a response for men looking for new and innovative ways to please him.

I have been told that I was way off base with the massage, standard that is, and maybe with the lingerie for her. Okay, I admit it. I was not thinking about everyone here, and I apologize for that. Please let me try to make this up to you by suggesting some things that I have learned from talking to friends who say they use these tips, tricks and toys to have that fun in the bedroom, and anywhere else they want to have a great time.

I can only hope that you are as forgiving to me as my friends have been. I asked them to review the toy, BJ vouchers for him. I can not print their response. However, they say that they have found enjoyment in the Gay Sex The Card Game, with over 100,000 possible fantasies to indulge in, they may be a while in the final review. We will leave them to it.

Card games not really your style? That is okay to; I have other tricks up my sleeve, so to speak. For the beginner into sex toys we have Thai anal beads. When removed at the precise time, the climax is off the charts. For those who have had this experience, you know what I am saying here, everyone needs to try these at least once…maybe more.

Regardless of sexual orientation, oral gratification is still ranked high on the list. And why not find a product that will lubricate, stimulate, and cause an icy tingling sensation. Al right, stop thinking about Altoids®, now what I am talking about is a product like Body Sensations tingling oil/lubricant. Or Razzles warming lubricant, which is so easy to use, simply rub on and blow for a new pleasing and teasing experience.

When talking about having a steamy night at home, and making sure to do something different, many people often overlook movies. Granted, not everyone enjoys watching on screen what they would rather be doing themselves, but for anyone looking to have a visual and audio sensory overload, try a movie sometime. I am still awaiting the critique of the film called Night Walk, maybe you could check it out; see for yourself if movies are anything that stirs up your partner.

No article about foreplay could be complete without discussing prostate massage. When I wrote the first article I had researched the subject to find out exactly what people who have enjoyed said. What I did not know at the time, was that they make a toy for people to use, and when you are looking for ways to turn on your partner in new ways check out on of these.

The Aneros MGX is designed for both the beginner and expert. The reviews regarding this toy say that it works with your bodies own contractions to achieve male orgasms like nothing else. By using the toy you can assist your partner in achieving these without worrying about whether or not you are performing the massage properly.

Trying out new things or movies or toys does not mean that you have become bored or in a rut with each other. Couples need to remember that be experimenting and moving the relationship in new and diverse directions is keeping it fresh. With time, stress and simply the worries of the world, we can all use an escape. When you are in a relationship having new sexual encounters and growing with each other you keep that relationship fresh.

And remember, keep it enjoyable!!!

Tips to Better Foreplay for Him

There are numerous forums dedicated to better sexual relationships. While reviewing some of these topics, threads, reports and other articles it seems that when the topic of foreplay is discussed, it revolves around what it will take to please the lady in their life.

Lately, the trend is beginning to shift and many ladies are questioning the best ways to please their man. This article will address a few tips and tricks that can be performed to enhance the sexual pleasure for you both. There are many comments regarding men and the issue of erections. How long will it last without the use of pills?

Not to worry. Our first tip has nothing to do with erections. To begin a great sexual experience with your man, begin by helping him to unwind after a long, difficult week. Begin by giving him a relaxing massage. This will give you two an intimate sharing time together without the pressure associate with a need to perform. And by beginning with a massage, it is very easy to segue into foreplay of a more expressive nature.

As your massage is winding down, now is the time to begin touching, kissing and rubbing of a different nature. Again, make sure to take your time. Do not jump around. If you start to kiss his neck, do not move to the backs of his knees without maintaining some form of contact the entire time.

Men enjoy being touched as much as women, so use caresses, light touching, and kissing. Begin by kissing his chest, once your way slowly down his torso to his penis. Use your fingernails to gently trail along his sides providing a tingling sensation that will keep him occupied. Once you have reached his penis and testicles, do not stop there. Go to the outer thighs, making sure to rub your body against him as much as possible.

You want to keep him guessing as to when/if you will be performing oral sex. Remember, teasing can be fun. Continue to move from his thighs to his chest using your lips, tongue, fingers, and fingertips. As you pass his penis and testicles stop for a few seconds. Begin oral sex, but not for long. Every time you move across his body, make sure to stay for a little longer.

Once you have decided that you are ready, begin to perform oral sex without lengthy breaks in between. Keep in mind, for some men, once this action is taken, they may not want you to stop.

There have been numerous threads dedicated to the prostate massage. Men have been noted to not allow this action to be taken, as they feel it may have homosexual tendencies. This is not the situation. If someone enjoys this, there is nothing wrong with it. If this is your first time, here is what you should begin doing.

Once your partner is relaxed and is ready, insert a well lubricated finger into his anus. If you are facing your partner you will locate a rounded bump approximately 2 inches inside the rectum. Apply gentle pressure to the prostate to massage him and give pleasure he has never known before.

Always communicate with each other. Watch for signs that what you are doing is enjoyable. Foreplay should not make someone uncomfortable with themselves or you. Talk about things that you want to do, and ask about anything that he knows that he enjoys.

Remember to keep it enjoyable.

Tips to Better Foreplay for Her

A lot of articles, books and reports have been dedicated to having better sex in your relationship, or be a better lover.  In the writings you will find that the key ingredient to this is communication.  When you are in a relationship it is extremely important to talk with your partner to find out what is it that they enjoy as well as to communicate your own personal likes and dislikes.

 

However, one topic of discussion that does not get enough respect is foreplay.  This has been a topic of discussions, jokes and often times complaints.  Many people feel that this is an unnecessary and time consuming activity that really has no benefits.  For women and men alike there are many couples to whom foreplay is not something that they feel any benefits from. For others, even when they feel mentally or emotionally ready they are physically not, and welcome many forms of foreplay to reach there desired readiness.

 

Couples often begin prior to a lovemaking session.  However, try beginning early in the day, if you have time.  Anticipation of what is to come helps to heighten and stimulate the experience.  This can be done very easily with simple kissing, hugging and light touching.  Keep your partner guessing as to whether now is the time, or are you still teasing.  To make sure they remain on their toes take every opportunity to pull them close and give them a long, deep, passionate kiss that will leave each of you breathless.  Continue to reach out and lightly touch through out the day.  

 

As the moment gets closer, begin with the deep kissing, light touching and begin to remove their clothes.  This will signal that the time has arrived, and it for some reason your partner is not ready, they can tell you.  Try to keep these moments random.  Relationships become a little stale when you create rules to having sex.  Mix up the time, the place, and always the how.

 

For women this is the point wherein they find that most men have managed to find their breast and nipples and have stopped.  While many women find this appealing, only linger if she is responding in a positive manner.  Remember, that the back, belly, buttocks, thighs and knees are also special places.  Using fingertips to touch create sensations that build the anticipation that you have been stoking all day.  Now is a good time to ask “do you enjoy this?”  Or “is there something else I can do?”  Always listen to her response. 

 

Make your movements slow.  If you begin by suckling her nipples, do not simply jump up, and take a leap down south.  Use this time to lick, touch, kiss and tease your way down her body.  Shake things up, if she is lying on her back, begin your descent and turn her over half way through.  This will keep her tuned in to your every move.

 

Care is needed when attempting to use fingers as a means of a clitoral orgasm as some women become sensitive to dry fingertips.  Should this be a problem, use a lubricant or use oral sex to achieve these.  Again, pay attention to any response she is giving you as an overly sensitive clitoris or labia will only cause discomfort and will achieve nothing.          

 

Should you find that lubricants are needed or wanted there are a variety of products that do not resemble thick gels.  Many help to enhance the experience by tingling, warming or cooling the areas applied to.  Some are flavored for use during oral sex, or anywhere on the body.

 

Sex toys are becoming very popular in adding an extra bit of fun.  Many can be used during foreplay as well as during the lovemaking.  Before choosing a product, look over many different toys and talk about what your expectations for the use are.  This is a toy and should be used for fun and enjoyment, not to make someone feel replaced.

 

To summarize, while communication is and always will be the key, there are many others things to memorable, enjoyable foreplay that will enhance the experience for both partners.  Kissing, touching, massaging are all ways to bring out the physical side to get her ready.  Remember to take your time.  Instead of jumping around from one place to another, use your bodies to move slowly and experiment with what you both feel is exciting.  And never forget to listen and watch for responses to what you are doing.  Sometimes you may see a look that says, don’t ever stop. 

 

Keep it enjoyable!!

 

Foreplay for Men

Last week I looked a the definition of foreplay, and questioned why anyone would think that it was a good idea.  Could it be more dry, uneffective, and without any creativity. 

Now, I want to take a minute out to talk about foreplay for men.  We enjoy it the same as women do.  If you are questioning what men want, here are a few tips and tricks to get us warmed up. 

Try using the tips of your fingers or your fingernails and running them down his chest to his navel.  Use enough pressure that he feels it, but keep his guessing about what you are going to do.  Use massage oils, and give a good rub down.  This will enable you to find any places he seems to really enjoy your touch.

Men enjoy oral sex.  For the an extra sensation use your fingers as well as your tongue and lips.  Remeber, light biting is okay, don’t go overboard and make him think your still hungary fro dinner.  Balls are an important part of oral sex, as always men will respond different touching. 

While your last boyfriend may have lost his mind over intense sucking, the new one may get off on more use of the tongue.  So ask what it is that he likes, what turns him on, and what sets him off.

Once you know, use the knowledge carefully.  Don’t fall into a routine, doing the same thing every time, even a man will get bored. 

Last tip of the day, work it!!!  Just because he claims he is about to explode, doesn’t mean that you need to stop.  Try short pauses, change the rythm or touch him in a differnet way.  If you continue to engage him in foreplay, when the time comes for intercourse, it will be more intense and pleasurable.

Is It Just Me?

Below is the definition of foreplay.  When you read it, is it any wonder why some people can not get into it?  “Meant to increase sexual arousal.”  Maybe if the definition was to say, enjoy all parts of your partner in ways that bring pleasure and in some people, screams that the neighbors heard.  Women talk about foreplay, jokes have been made about the fact that women like foreplay, when in reality men enjoy it too.  After reading this pathetic definition, please leave your thoughts and comments regarding what you think.

Until next time, enjoy your foreplay.

In human sexual behavior, foreplay is a set of intimate psychological and physical acts between two or more people meant to increase sexual arousal.

Foreplay involves different acts such as kissing, touching, embracing, talking, and teasing (teasing, in this case, may include methods of satisfaction, such as erotic sexual denial).^[1] Sexual stimulation of all kinds, such as manual or oral stimulation of erogenous zones are considered foreplay. Sexual role playing, fetish activities, and BDSM can also be considered foreplay, though they may also accompany intercourse and not just precede it. Of the various forms of foreplay, the most common include fellatio and cunnilingus.